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Friday, May 11, 2012

So I can't decided...

My baby fever is high...like extremely high.  It has been for a while and people have been tip toeing around me when they get pregnant like I am going to hate them or blame them for being pregnant which is driving me crazy.  I had a miscarriage...I am ok...God has a plan and although that baby didn't make it, I fully believe another child will make its way into my arms.  I am past the anger stage (which is just that a stage, not a permanent fixture in my soul) and in all honesty I AM SO HAPPY for all my friends and family that are expecting little ones!  What a joyous time in their life.

But well I can't decide.  Do we go for another baby now and ignore the realities of life because I have the fever or do we wait and try to time it so that the next baby shows up at an opportune time?  Can we really time it?  I have several factors playing into the "opportune time"  (if there really is such a thing).

1. My wonderful job...the fact that I will be teaching AP next year and missing 8 weeks in the middle of a school year without pay is INSANE!

2.  Eyan has straight out said NO BABY!  Which I realize he doesn't know that a sibling could totally be awesome, but it just crushes me to think he might actually know what a sibling is and just doesn't want to share me.

3.  Financials of a new baby.  Jason and I are just now starting to get a grasp on our insane spending.  That is what happens when wads of money get thrown at two 20-somethings...you kind of forget how to live a normal life and when normal HAS TO HAPPEN, it is an adjustment.  A new baby would cost us an estimate of $600.00 per month, and that is a rather large sum of money.  One that I totally feel is worth it, but I worry would put us in debt and I do not do debt.

4.  I am planning a trip to DISNEYLAND for Eyan's 3rd birthday with a bunch of friends and family and we are darn excited, but a pregnant woman/new baby would make this trip no fun for me...and we know I like fun.

So what are your thoughts readers, do we throw caution to the wind and go for it and deal with the repercussions later or do we time it?

8 comments:

  1. Laura there is never really a "right" time to have a baby, but you do have very valid points about maybe waiting another year. You guys are still young and have plenty of time to have another little one. Being a parent is hard enough but if you add in the stress of money, vacations, jobs, and just life in general it makes being a parent that much harder. Honestly I would say just wait another year. That would put about 4years between Eyan and new baby and give you guys some time to "plan" for another one. And when they get older having a few yrs in between graduations, cars, college and everything else is actually pretty nice so you guys don't have huge expenses back to back. Just a thought.

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    1. Thank you. I agree there is never a right time :)

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  2. You are like me - a planner. But after Jude I relized that there is no PERFECT time for a baby. Kids are freaking expensive no matter what age they are or when you have them. If you feel ready, go for it. The money and the vacations will come and work out.

    Sometimes us planners have to give it to God and just let it be!

    xoxox

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    1. I think God is my best bet :) Thank you!

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  3. There's never a "good" time to have a baby, you know that. But if you've got something special planned for Eyan, I'd honestly hold off. It'll never be just the three of you again, you know. That really, really invaluable. Plus, you're young. You've got time. But you know I'll love you either way. XOXO.-Sport

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    1. Glad to know I will always be loved ;) He has no idea about the Disney trip, and it could always be pushed for a couple more years....like a 5th birthday gift which would probably be more memorable

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  4. Stop planning and let God be in charge. I had planned my second son, but not my third and had no idea if I even wanted a third (and afraid to get a girl), but he is the joy and laughter in our family. There is no perfect time, age differential, financial readiness, sibling willingness, etc. By the time you decide to wait and then try, something else will be in the wings. Let God make the decision and let go of the control (which I personally know is REALLY hard)... but you may regain your sanity and reduce the fever a little. Enjoy life right now as well!

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  5. Thank you! I hope by letting God make that choice my fever will die down too!

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